The world is a silly place these days. Things can change in an instant. One moment you can have everything working perfect as if all the stars were aligned and all your ducks in a row but in an instant the whole system can collapse. These changes and how you react to them are what truly define your character as a human. I am witnessing two drastically different reactions to similar scenarios and the results are intriguing. Both are dealing with job loss and relationship changes at the same time. When you take two heavy blows like that back to back you really see what kind of person you are. You are really at a crossroads in life where you can choose one of two directions; pick yourself up, dust your shoulders off, and immediately start searching for what’s next; or you can give up, do nothing, and say fuck everything and disappear into a spiral of reckless and irresponsible behavior. Which would you choose? Most people will automatically say the first, but is it true?
I watched as someone I cared more for then I ever have about anyone do the latter. They started off fine by focusing on what was next and realized that the world really was at their fingertips. They were smiling and happy despite the dire circumstances surrounding the most part of their life. But then they started to focus on the past more than the future and let themselves spin into a depressed and unmotivated state. It was sad to witness the potential of this person just vanish like dust on a windy day. All the life and joy that was in this person’s life was gone from their eyes and replaced by a lifeless and quiet hopelessness that no one could pull them out of. It was heartbreaking. I spent more time and attention on this person than I ever have with anyone before. They were amazing but they let their past destroy them and all that made them special. They did all of this knowing full well what they were doing too.
What do you do when you see someone doing this to themselves? The answer is nothing. The more you try and save them the more they will resent you for even trying at all. People who do this to themselves can’t be saved. It sounds bad but these people are doomed. There seems to be no point in trying to let them know what they can be or do. They simply want to be nothing and any form of encouragement you give them will make them feel controlled or trapped, even if you are just offering a suggestion and not making a demand. Some people love misery. They bask and bathe in it like Bathory in the tub. They let it run thick and cover them entirely.
What do you do when you let the best thing you have ever encountered walk away because of this? How do you react? Should you be mad or frustrated? No, it was nothing you could have done to prevent it. It’s who they really were. All the potential in the world means nothing if someone isn’t willing to reach for their goals. Words mean nothing, actions mean everything. What makes me different than those I mentioned above is that I will pick myself without hesitation and continue to take steps toward complete happiness and achieving my dreams. All of them. Nothing will stand in my way. Not even losing my complete soulmate to the darkness that I mentioned above. See you in the clouds.