It’s been a while since I have really posted a blog. For that I apologize. Things have been hectic and I have regrettably overlooked posting my feelings on paper and have chosen to try other avenues of distraction. I have come to the realization in recent days that a simple life with a simple girl is really not the path of life I am destined to live. I will forever forge a path of complexity and seek out a more complicated companion with a deeper set of values that can provide the intrigue and curiosity I subconsciously desire. We all say we want to live a simple life without complications that is easy gong and carefree, but is that really what we want? Those things sound glorious on paper but living a life to that degree can get boring and monotonous. Confrontation and diversity are the forces that drive people to become better and not settle in the end. Spending each day trying new things and learning through your differences in the course of an intricate relationship is how you truly recognize your full potential. Anything else would be settling. Shall you ever find yourself with someone who does not share your values or ideals you are destined for failure. For love cannot be a surface emotion. It must be deep down in your whole existence and echoed through your daily experiences together, constantly learning more about your partner and yourself and growing together each and everyday through each of your unique personalities. Someday I will find someone that will mirror my own complications and desire to live an exciting life filled with twists and turns that keep you wondering “what’s next” and stay fascinated by the multifaceted web we weave together and bask in the stimulation that will be us. Someday. Peace, love, and happiness sound wonderful and cliché to say, but are they really what we crave in our own lives. I know I crave different. Something more dense and interesting.
What I want so bad again
Finding someone that can make me happy is a daunting task. I have been asked why I need to have someone. Truth is I don’t. I just like it. I like the companionship. I like the fun movie nights, I like the nights out and looking across the bar and seeing that other person having a good time and smiling knowing that they are happy and being happy simply because they are too. I like the dinners out and in, the walks around town and on the beach hand-in-hand. I just like having someone nearby to hold when I need it or want it. Companionship is not that it’s a requirement that I need to fulfill, it’s just a comforting and pleasing thing to have. I really do enjoy the time when two souls are growing together and learning from each other. When it comes to relationships I tend to put my best foot forward and cast all worries to the wind and have faith that something will blossom. Some people aren’t like that. Some people have been hurt in the past, some people have just never been able to give themselves away like that. I am trying to understand that side of it, but it’s hard for me. When things feel right I like to go with it. I try and not hold back my true feelings in this area. Yeah I get hurt because of this, but oh well. At least I got to experience that level of satisfaction, no matter how brief.
Sometimes I have things that I do take for granted. I know I do. I need to fix this. I will try and work at it. Often I see potential in things that others apparently don’t think can be that big. It sucks because then I never get the chance to try it and see if it can be done. I’ll have to live without ever knowing what it could have been. It hurts. I don’t like it. But I have no control over that. It takes two to tango as they say.
I hope that someday soon I can find someone that puts that smile from yester-year on my face. I want it back so bad. Someone who, no matter how busy, can make time for me. I do whatever I can for my other halves in this sense; I hope that someday someone can do that for me too. I hope that I can find someone who is beautiful so that I can tell them that all the time, and maybe they’ll return the favor to make me feel good too (I know emo). I hope I can find someone with the drive to succeed and the organization to actually achieve it. Someone who is responsible and makes good logical decisions. Someone who can tell when I am stressed or having a bad day, or even ask how my day was for that matter, and offer some way to help or calm me, even if it’s just a hug and a kiss. I want the connection again. I want to have the closeness that we know what each other is thinking and can act on it without words. I want those welcome home and goodnight kisses. I want busy Saturdays doing anything outside of the house and lazy Sundays around the house. I want good communication so there are never mixed words and jumbled meanings. I just want to be happy.
I will do everything I can to make them smile as much as possible and be a positive, and supportive person in their life. Understanding the struggles of everyday life and showing them that they don’t have to go through them alone. They just have to ask and I am there for them and I will be standing right next to them holding their hand and offering all the security and comfort I can possibly provide. I want to give my all, everyday, like I always do and ultimately get hurt again. It’s a cycle that always happens and I know I am doomed to repeat it, but again I long for it after it is all said and done. I hope I can find it again, the outlook is bleak.
Long flights, hard nights
Think you’re too good to promote your show? Think you will just draw enough without telling
No matter what level of band you are, you are NEVER too good to promote yourself. You would be a fool if you thought that someone would take care of everything for you. Even if almost all of it was indeed taken care of there are still people that you could run into personally that don’t know about it and if you mentioned something to them they could come! You MUST use every resource available to get your show info out! You say no one uses MySpace anymore? Wrong, there are still some late adopters who do! You’ve never had anyone from MySpace come to a show before? Well how long ago was that? Maybe this is the time. Maybe you’ll be a featured artist and all of the sudden people will care! And if it’s not posted they’ll never know. What does it take all of 2 minutes to post it on there?
Are you Twittering about it at least once a day? You should be. Probably even twice a day with different wording each time. Is your Facebook profile so locked down private that people can’t even see it? If so then the event you posted that you thought was enough probably won’t be seen by anyone other than those you sent the invite too. Did you put it on Eventful or Lastfm? People use those services a lot ya’ know. How about good ol’ PureVolume. Forgot about them huh? Well lots of other people didn’t.
The point is that you have a responsibility to self promote your shit. How else are people going to know about it if you are a small band? How are the non-hip people going to know about it if you’re a large band? POST THAT SHIT EVERYWHERE! Graffiti the internets with your flyers! And, yes, get out there and hand out real deal paper flyers outside of similar shows! Organize a street team to do this for you or with you at lots of venues and put them on the guest list for free entry or give them a shout out during the set for helping you get the word out. You’re right, not everyone will come but a few might, and they’ll probably bring a friend. So even if three come and bring friends that’s now six people.
If you have too much pride or rely on other people too much no one will come. Not because they didn’t want to, but because they didn’t know.

How to lose bookings and alienate your clients: The Story of Lexxi Paul Productions
This week I was auto-added on MySpace by an LA “promoter/booker” called Lexxi Paul Productions. After this a funny and though invoking chain of evens unfolded that lead me to feel inclined to write about bookers and promoters. Before I dive into what actually transpired from this auto-add I’d like to give you a little insight on what production companies/promoters/bookers actually are.
When you are a band and you start to play shows outside your hometown it can be difficult to book shows. See, It used to be harder than it is now with the advent of various social networking sites, but as you can imagine you wouldn’t know people, know venues to play at, or even know other talent to open for you if you are solo touring. Even in bigger cities where there is more competition, such as New York, Nashville and here in Los Angeles it can also be very difficult to get a decent show booked on your own even if you are a local band. For these instances you might need some help getting all these things taken care of for you and getting your shows set up so you can hit the road and tout your craft. Enter booking agents. These are people who have a vast network (other promoters/bookers or direct to the venue) of people throughout the region, nation, or even the world who can take care of getting you or your band on the bill. That’s what they do. That is their purpose, bringing people together to get the band booked where they want to play.
If you dive even deeper, you need to get the word out that you are playing after you get booked right? Right. Better clubs have promoters who are people whose sole job is to get the word out about upcoming shows and acts to try and drive people to the venue and pay for admission, drinks, food or whatever. More popular clubs like we have here in LA really don’t have to do this as much because many clubs are destination spots that a lot of people will frequent no matter what. And believe me, they know this and charge a premium at the door! Some smaller venues, that don’t have the destination appeal, don’t have the capacity for this promoting element of the equations. Enter promoters. Promoters can blur the line between a booker and the official promotion arm of a venue. These people often have access to a venue and book a band(s) to play there for the venue like a hired subcontractor. These acts are set up to play at the venue on a certain date by this 3rd party in exchange for a predetermined reimbursement, monetary or other, from that venue. National bookers will sometimes use these smaller regional promoters to book their shows for them. A good example of this is Mike Thrasher Presents in Portland, Oregon who sets up shows like the Radio Rebellion Tour where the national booking agent for this particular tour would contact the regional promoter of their choice, in this case Mike Thrasher, who will then take care of all the booking for the region for the larger company and promote the show locally for the larger booker. In the end you would see a poster that says something like; Mike Thrasher Presents Radio Rebellion Tour featuring So and So Band (brought to you by Live Nation) or whatever the main company booking the show is. Now you know how it works, well how it is supposed to. Straight forward enough right?
Here in Los Angeles promoters who actually “promote” shows are few and far between. Somewhere along the line the promoters in this city decided that it was the solely bands job to tell people about the upcoming show. All the promoter was supposed to do was get the band put on the schedule to play at that venue at that time on this night. Some of the “bigger” bookers actually charge bands to play at premier venues in what’s called “pay-to-play” bookings where a band pays the promoter a fee (it can cost $800 sometimes) to play there that night and get their name out. A real pay-to-play booker would take that money and do things such as printing flyers and posting bills around town on the walls, having a street team blanket other similar shows handing out fliers talking about the show and driving traffic to it resulting in more cash at the end of the night for EVERYONE! That is, after all, what you are paying them for. But they don’t do any of that. They then punish the band and don’t book anything for them ever again when no one comes out to the show. But they got your cash, so they don’t care and they probably got what ever money they could from the door off the few people that did come!
There are three solutions to this problem;
1.) Don’t book with a pay to play promoter, there are ways to get into those venues with out using one, trust me.
2.) Two, use the money you would have paid that promoter to play there to do the work publicizing a different show somewhere else yourself. Go either direct to the venue or get a non-pay-to-play promoter to book you a show and give them a percentage of something. Keep in mind that they will need some kind of proof that it is worth there while. A lot of times they will make you pre-sell tickets to prove it, like “sell 25 of these or you won’t get paid” type of deal. These are bad too. Just say “look, if I don’t bring enough people, don’t book me again. And make sure you bring enough! I would never buy tickets from a band, I know its better for the band but most of my show choices are spontaneous decisions and I can never commit to anything that far in advance. Good venues or promoters where it matters how many people you draw will keep a tally usually at the door of how many people came out to see you and honest ones will pay you accordingly.
3.) Be proactive in everything you do with your band to make sure you are in demand and the promoters will come to you. If you have a decent management firm backing you chances are you will have an in-house booking agent or access to one that will have your best interests in mind and you’ll never have to really worry about this. But if you are unsigned or on a shitty label, you will. So self promote the fuck out of yourself! Get on message boards and talk it up! Call up magazines and get interviewed! All that fun stuff, eventually you will get a yes in the sea of No’s so just keep at it!
Now we have that all out of the way lets talk about the unprofessional and sorry excuse for a promoter that Lexxi Paul is. Upon being auto added I sent Lexxi a fun comment (They have messages disabled on their MySpace so if you are working with them you can’t even send them an email!) explaining to them that they are not what real bands are looking for. They book small venues and expect you to sell a certain about of tickets and promote the show yourself and draw a crowd. Well what the fuck do you need them for then? If you have to do all the work yourself you might as well contact the venue directly and book it yourself and take all the money. No sense in giving it to someone who did nothing and doesn’t deserve it. I would post what I sent them but I can’t because they had to be comments and MySpace doesn’t save sent comments (I deleted them after I sent the comments and they have a private profile, god knows why when it’s a business, so I can’t see them, although I doubt they approved them). Of course they replied and this is what they had to say:
“A. You are snot nosed who doesn’t know shit about me and what I do. Ask the thousands of bands and you might figure it out. You are burning the wrong bridge. But I will just leave it at that.
You are a stupid piece of ugly shit, who wears his hair like a scene that went out 2 years ago!
Maybe you should learn to not burn bridges and maybe then you will get somewhere. Be advised this town is small and you will be remembered in the worst way possible.
oh and your little groupie fan tribute to bands in Warped Tour. Most of them are my good friends and I work it and my close friend books two of the side stages. Why don’t you look at Brook’s project and you will see. But you won’t be playing those with that attitude. Again don’t burn bridges. You never know who people know.
Faggot fuck face”
Classy.
Were going to work this finely craft list of bullets, and apparently letters they sent me.
First paragraph; I only had to ask one to hear about your reputation in this town. You are a nice person they said but you don’t actually do anything useful for the acts and you book small venues, all of which are too small for ANY of the acts I am associated with. Thanks for trying. And don’t worry I asked other bands, bookers, and agents and you do not have a fantastic reputation here. You’re just another leech trying to make a buck off bands. There are enough of you here already.
Second; Really? Well that’s ok and that maybe but while we’re talking business, let’s try and keep the focus on the issues on the table. If you have to resort to these kinds of tactics maybe you should revaluate your business model. You should have solid reasons why your method of conducting your business is superior to the ways I listed for you to change it. We can make fun of each others style after this has all been sorted out.
Third; I evaluated if I could afford to burn your bridge and I decided I could. You will never be in any position that would ever affect me in any way negatively. You are very small time, and since I am not in any real band there is no way it could ever effect me. Since the bands that I am associated with are already at a higher level than you are capable of booking you can’t harm them either. And the people I know that you know too, like me more than you because I am real and don’t try and take money from them. Again, thanks for trying, but it’s the other way around you shouldn’t be burning the bridge with me. You never know…
Fourth; That’s cute. You and your friend can book away on the side stages. My people only play main stage. Still burning…
Fifth: Real professional.
Good luck Lexxi Paul, I’ll keep doing things my way, and you do them yours. See how far it gets you.

Lexxi Paul’s MySpace picture
More On Music Managers…
I don’t even know what to really say. I sit here and watch a lot of talented people just totally fuck up and throw it all away while less talented people are getting the prize. The pot-of-gold-at-the-end-of-the-rainbow if you will. Take Versa Emerge for example, they don’t have a record out, just some shoddy EP that sounds like shit and they are on Fueled By Ramen (Pete Wentz’s label: Fall Out Boy, Panic at the Disco, Paramore) and set to appear all summer on the Vans Warped Tour. And here I am watching another person who a full major deal (Sony) in a foreign country, a solid album out (sales are lacking cause she isn’t over there promoting it AT ALL) and her team can’t even get a meeting together for lunch with a small indie US label! I guess what I am trying to point out is what I mentioned in the “Struggling Shit Band Part 1” entry where I talked about the importance of having a solid team. What you are lacking in skill or true talent can usually be disguised in a clever smoke and mirrors show by a properly organized team. I can not stress this enough! You cannot be represented by people who are not aggressive. This is a very competitive, cut throat industry and if you don’t LEAP on every opportunity and stick your foot in every cracked open door you’ll never get anywhere. And worse, your artists won’t either, all because of you. So bands/artists; don’t get locked into a shitty agreement with a shitty manager or promoter! You need to be able to leave that rep and move on to bigger and better reps when you DO out grow them, cause you will. You need to also have people who understand they took you as far as they could at their current capacity and know when to let go of you too a new person/agency.
Think of it this way, the car you get at 16, is it going to be the only car you’ll ever need your entire life? Will you not grow up and possibly have kids and need a bigger car? Will it be as reliable forever? The answer is no, you wouldn’t stick with the car and you shouldn’t stick with the same team forever. Change it up as needed people! If you aren’t happy and getting the results you want put them on notice! Tell them to start paying attention! Then if they fuck up again, submit it in writing that you’re unhappy! Then the third time, there out! Baseball style! Write your contract with that exact clause if you do draw up a formal management representation contract. You’ll thank me later.
Bad managers (this goes for really anyone you work with too not just managers) that use intimidation tactics to scare you into thinking certain things is someone you shouldn’t do business with at all to begin with. The second you hear them say “If you leave me, they won’t sign you” you get the fuck out of there. If the label is truly interested, they’ll come get you no matter who you’re with. It is true this is an industry of “who you know not what you know,” but it’s more so an industry of making the fastest buck so if they think it’s with you they’ll keep coming after ya’!
I am currently watching two acts be the victim of poor management, and it kills me to watch both of these incredibly talented groups struggle and get frustrated to the point of disbanding or quitting all together over simple communication errors that could be easily solved with management changes. People really don’t realize how crucial these manager types are to your success and well being as an artist. They’re a huge part!
Oh and remember, THE MANAGER WORKS FOR YOU! NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND!

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